Stress and Selfishness

Philippians 2:3, 14-15 NLT

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.

Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.

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What a reminder and a rebuke for me. Since the time my folks went to visit and are staying with us, stress has been mounting atop our already stressful situation. Almost constant little things that keeps on piling up eventually will get you – and it did.

Now, my wife and I are sleeping less and skirmishes are frequent over little things. Patience has been running thin. With so many reasons that brush us off, stress is just hard to manage and we’re very close to blow off our steam at each other. Pressures on all sides are squeezing dry our being nice, accomodating, and considerate.

Yet we are reminded not to be selfish and to be humble. To put others above our own interests.. I am thankful that God is the main thing in our all. He is the source of our strength. He is our hope.

Thank you Lord Jesus. I know I am selfish beyond what I can admit. I know I get stressed out easily than most people. But because of you, I am able. Because of you, I am renewed.

Personal Growth

As I have an opportunity to spend some time to myself, I ought to revisit some of the books I used to read a lot. These books are mostly about business, leadership, management and the likes. I guess one of the reasons that I did is because I felt that in those years that had passed, it seems little progress was made. Ouch! 

Anyway, it’s good to acknowledge and be able to assess the reality of the situation to be able to make adjustments right? One of the books I read and reading again is John Maxwell’s book titled “You Road map for Success”. I have read this book when back in 2004. Yeah, about 10 years ago. I saw the notes I wrote on it, the underlines/highlights I made, and reminded of what I was like back then – full of dreams.

Now, 10 years older, I still am full of dreams but I don’t think I achieved that much since. I won’t focus much on why but I will focus on what I can do to really make an impact first, to my personal growth in the sense of success.

I read that “complacency kills growth“. I think after a few years of my professional life, I kind of settled to pursue the wrong things which at that time I thought was right. I tried to short circuit and fast track my promotion, gave in to the temptation of higher paying jobs but to the detrimental of my character growth, and basically spread myself too thin with so many things. Now, I think I’ve learned hard and will be more cautious, focused, and prayerful. :) 

On the book, it was mentioned that environment plays a lot in one’s growth. So in order for anyone to grow, a growth environment must be in place or created.  Here are the things listed that a growth environment looks like:

1. Others are ahead of you – When you surround yourself with people from whom you can learn – instead of just people who are learning from you – you are more likely to grow.

2. You are still challenged –  Complacency kills growth

3. Your focus is forward - If you’re thinking more about the past than the future, your growth has probably stopped.

4. The atmosphere is affirming - Industrialist Charles Schwab said, “I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not bother do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism.” The same is true not only of work but also of growth.

5. You are out of your comfort zone - Growth requires risk. Ronald E. Osborne stated, “Unless you do something beyond what you’ve already mastered, you will never grow.”

6. Others are growing - When it comes to growth, it’s better to swim in a school than try to do everything your own. 

7. There is willingness to change - Clayton G. Orcutt declared, “Change itself is not progress, but change is the price that we pay for progress.” If everyone in your current situation isn’t willing to pay that price, growth will be especially difficult. 

8. Growth is modeled and expected - In the best possible environment, growth is not only allowed, but leaders model it and expect it from everyone. And when that happens, everyone’s potential is off the charts.

 

Humility

” For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”  – Luke 14:11

Lately, I was just very irritated and gets really angry right away. For some reason, my short fuse became even shorter. I shouted at some poor boy who disregarded my advice not to spray water/soap on my windshield but he did. On the road, whenever someone cuts me, it’s almost guaranteed that I’ll cut him back. And my wife gently rebuked me about this bad behavior of mine. I was still trying to justify myself, my actions, but the truth is, she’s right. I’m being arrogant, boastful, and worst not Christ like whenever I’m driving. 

And after that, I thanked the Lord for showing me things about my character that I needed to submit to His power and His grace. On this area, I needed to repent and ask the Lord’s help because I can’t be a nice guy on the wheels on my own. 

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Jeremy Passion Concert

Been following and listening to Passion since 2008 or 2009 and only last night that I was able to see him perform live. It’s extra special since I’m with my special someone – wife. Inspiring music and he spoke much love to his Mom and grand mom by dedicating songs to them. He spoke about his walk with God. Encouraging for me because of this young man’s platform to give honor to the Lord.

Check out his youtube page.

https://www.youtube.com/user/passionsf

Jeremy Passion Concert

Why Good Managers Are So Rare

Originally posted on HBR Blog Network - Harvard Business Review:

Gallup has found that one of the most important decisions companies make is simply whom they name manager. Yet our analysis suggests that they usually get it wrong. In fact, Gallup finds that companies fail to choose the candidate with the right talent for the job 82% of the time.

Bad managers cost businesses billions of dollars each year, and having too many of them can bring down a company. The only defense against this massive problem is a good offense, because when companies get these decisions wrong, nothing fixes it. Businesses that get it right, however, and hire managers based on talent will thrive and gain a significant competitive advantage.

Managers account for at least 70% of variance in employee engagement scores across business units, Gallup estimates. This variation is in turn responsible for severely low worldwide employee engagement. Gallup reported in two large-scale studies in 2012 that only…

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